Wednesday, January 27, 2010

US Calling ... a magical dream come true!!!

I have my family and God to thank, for all that unfolded in my life over the next month, after the early morning call I received on the 25th of September 2009. It was Anj sounding tired yet content ... saying she had delivered her second baby and that she and he were both well… my heart reached out to Dhaval and her and I thanked God for blessing them with parenthood twice around on 24 September 2009 (living in Texas USA they are about 12 hours behind time from India). Mum and Papa were thrilled and Dhaval sounded on top of the world! Mala, Nu, the kids and I rejoiced the birth in exclamations of excitement and I distributed money to all my house-help!

After work that evening, I decided to visit Da to share the joy of the newest member of the family with him and so I picked up some flowers and Mithai and sped to his home. He was away said the watchman - I guessed he had gone to the club for his walk, swim, sauna routine and I contemplated waiting or just leaving the flowers & mithai with the watchman ... I thought again and decided to wait for him ... and so I waited ... and waited ... during which I read a bit, drove around the block 10 times chased by the traffic cops and then finally at 9PM when I was at the end of my patience and fuel, I checked with the watchman for the last time -- he said that Da had just arrived -- I sent the flowers and mithai up with him. He obliged and just as I was about to leave I received a frantic call from Da requesting me to come up. The watchman helped me to park in the traffic-packed road and I took the lift to the 23rd floor of Matru Mandir. Da looked pleased as punch and we decided to call Anj and Dhaval on Da' free computer based dial-up facility. By this time they were already thinking of names Veer, Jai, Kabir, Rohan, Arjun ... I suggested Kanha and said that I liked Arjun too.

They decided to name their little prince Arjun – I prayed that like the great Pandava Prince Arjun our little baby too would grow to be a valiant young man with all the values of the Bhagvad Gita and make all of us proud some day! The following morning we received his first picture with Dhaval holding him close to his chest. He was wearing two caps (!?) and was swaddled in a red and blue striped sheet so all we could see was his adorable plump cheeks, pouty lips and black eyes looking up at his Papa … Dhaval’ facial expressions were not a part of the picture but I can imagine the 'proud papa' look on his face :) On the following day we received another set of pictures in which a smiling Anika was holding Arjun in her lap and the two cubs were flanked by their smiley parents looking on proudly at their creations. Becoming a parent is truly the most beautiful experience and the most fulfilling achievements ever!

I spoke with Mala the day after Arjun’ birth and she said that she would be traveling to Texas in time for MaPa’ anniversary i.e. 13 October and would spend 6 days with them. Lucky bum!!!! I want to see Arjun too and mama and my darling papli and my Anj baby … :( Oh God, I wish I could just magically appear in Texas … Sigh!!! I hung on to every development, photograph and call eagerly and although I knew it was an impossible dream my heart kept feeling the need to travel the 13500 kilometers and be a part of the celebration with my family.

Two days later an investment I had made with the Post Office matured and just as I was contemplating options for a further reinvestment of the amount, Nu suggested that I use the money to make a trip to the US instead. I shot down the idea saying … ‘No way Nu, I’d rather save the money for a family holiday after Roshni' board exam … plus I doubt I’ll get leave… I dont want to enjoy by myself yaar'. Nu was persistent and so were the kids … they egged me on after a dramatic consultation they had amidst themselves and said in rehearsed unision,
‘MAMA WE BOTH THINK YOU SHOULD GO TO AMERICA!’
‘Don’t be ridiculous – if we go, we go together. Its ok beta – Masi will soon visit India with Arjun ... I would hate to leave you’ll and enjoy the baby alone’
‘Mom we'll be fine. Just think how happy all of you will be when you unite as a family …PLEASE GO na Mama … AT LEAST YOU SHOULD GO – Nana and Nani will be so happy to see you there – It will be the biggest surprise ever and the money spent will be really worth it!!!’
I dreamily replied, ‘Yes … I know that if this could actually happen they would be thrilled and it would be a fantastic reunion for the 5 Sharmas … Papli, Ma, Malee, Anj … and me (!?) … anyway I won't get leave'.
Nu said, ‘Ask your boss ...if she says yes I really think you should go – after all we work hard to enjoy moments like this – you deserve this trip‘!
I slept over their thoughts and decided to give it a shot… my dreams saw me amidst my sisters, parents, lil Anika… and Arjun…

The following week was a milieu of activity - applying for leave which I got instantly since a lot of Diwali bank holidays were falling during the same period, calling the travel agent, deciding on an airline (Emirates was the final choice) and date to fly, talking to the foreign exchange agent, buying gifts for Malee, baby Arjun, Anika and Anj’ home, and thanks to Kanan (my colleague at work) ordering some interesting gifts for Mapa which were a revolving cube with all our pictures on its 6sides and two tea mugs with the kid’ pictures imprinted on them. I finally decided to tell Mala about the trip so that she would be prepared to have me over. The practical Mala was shocked at my plan and insisted that I am wasting my money and that it would be better that Anj came to India. I insisted that my mind was made up and that I was going to make the trip anyways. The plan was; I would leave for San Francisco in the early morning of 10th Oct by Emirates via Dubai and because I would gain time I would arrive there on the 10th of Oct at 1.30PM. Mala would pick me up. I would get over jetlag for two days at her place and then fly to Texas with her on the 13th in time for Mum and Papa’ wedding anniversary! With the leave approval in place, I booked the tickets, bought the requisite dollars and packed like a mad person till the last minute ... and every few moments I had time to breathe I couldn’t stop smiling to myself that the magic was actually unfolding in front of me …

On the 8th of Oct we went for dinner to ‘On Toes, Bandra’ with the Gang to bring in Raunaq and Hoju’ birthdays – they were all really happy to know that I was going to surprise the family and we brought in their birthday at Mocha Mojo’ eating a variety of chocolate desserts. My baby turned 13 ... a teenager ... I am big boy now he said!

The night of 9th Oct arrived, and so did Tuna’ bag to be delivered to Alka in SFO – it was heavy but since I was not carrying too much baggage I decided to carry it for her. We also cut a cake for Raunaq on the evening of the 9th before I left the house and I made certain that my baby got some really cool things that he had wanted as gifts … clothes, a basketball, a Chelsea clock and a bag! He was a little upset that I would not be there for his birthday celebrations on the following day i.e. Saturday 10th Oct – he had invited his gang of boys over for a movie followed by a sleepover and of course breakfast and lunch on Sunday!! Nu was for sure going to have a handful that weekend ;) The kids had all the plans to drop me off at the airport but as the clock went beyond 11 their eyes started getting droopy and they were soon fast asleep. I dressed making sure to wear my body warmers as a precaution against the unpredictable flight temperatures. Nu and I left the house at 12.30 and drove silently to the airport – whenever I leave my children may it be for a short over-night trip for work or if they are going on a tour I get this un-explainable knot in my stomach and I worry myself sick about their well-being. Just as we were reaching the airport I said, ‘Nu please love the kids more than ever for me while I am away and do find the time to talk to them on a daily basis about all that is happening in their lives and please don’t be impatience with them’. He assured me all would be well and we soon bid goodbye. We also decided that if MaPa called home to speak to me during these 3 days of my travel and stay at Mala’ place Nu would say that I am on a business trip to Pune and that the signal there is not very good. And I was off …

10th Oct 2009, INDIA/DUBAI: Check-in at the Emirates counter was pretty much a breeze. I specified to the lady at the counter that she give me a window or aisle seat or a seat between 2 ladies for the connecting flight since I was traveling alone. Then I went through the form filling before immigration check, security check and the 2 hour wait before boarding … I always love the fresh smell that comes from an international flight, however as I walked in to the much talked about Emirates Cabin, the hospitality did not strike me as 'Warm' and was definitely not a patch on the Singapore Airlines experience. I thankfully had an aisle seat and after take off (which was on time) I tuned into the ICE facility on board and watched Night at the Museum – Battle of the Smithsonian which was a fun film; ate breakfast and before I knew it we had landed in Dubai (my first stop on this soil). This airport was huge, awesome and very articulately constructed with all the choice amenities and an endless and abundant duty free … what struck me and took me a while to get used to was seeing so many Hijab clad men and women as part of the front office of each facility at the airport.

The halt at Dubai was for 2 hours and finally it was time to go for the long haul all the way to SFO – a 16 hour non-stop journey!! I walked into the Emirates aircraft to find myself seated between a huge bulky middle aged man and a stout old lady. I felt not unlike a squished tomato!!! Damn the lady at the Emirates counter in Mumbai! Thankfully, they were both very silent for most of the journey and slept thru most of the meals and snack services – so I hogged and enjoyed the wine and watched movies galore … Taking of Pelham 123, Cheri & My Sisters Keeper – this film in particular was simply amazing and had me weeping like a baby by the end of it… the burly man to my right turned to look at me with a 'is all well' look and I smiled thru my tears pointing to the screen – that was the only silent exchange that I had with him! By the end of the journey I had concluded that the much talked of Emirates service was a real disappointment - the food was pathetic and cold, the staff was not responsive and on 4 separate occasions ignored my buzzer calls and the last straw was when I asked for a fruit and the attendant said that I could not have it as I had already had a Veg-Roll (which by the way was putrid)!? I was like ... WHAT are you saying ... please take this horrible roll back! Sorry Maam you have already opened the pack!?!$#@% I swore never to fly Emirates again!!

10th Oct 2009, SFO: The immigration officer at SFO was a cheerful black named John who was the other extreme from my fellow travelers … chatty as can be! He chatted about India and that he wanted to visit Delhi and Goa someday … he really helped in elevating my quieted spirits :) I collected my two bags after 45mins of anxiously waiting at the carousal thanks to the Emirates ground staff’ negligence – my bags had been offloaded from the carousal and hence I could not sight them earlier! Big NO to Emirates!!!! I walked out of the grey doors of the arrival hall to be greeted by a warm hug from Malee who was looking anxious as I took really long to come out! She was worried sick that something had gone wrong with me!

We headed to her new home and what a house!!! Simply beautiful to say the least and just the sanctuary for her … I can imagine why she loved it so much … I freshened up in the white guest room and took out the few gifts that I had got for Malee, had the yummy lunch she had made … Kayle, Dal, hot Rotis and curd … a perfect meal indeed! To beat the jet lag Mala suggested that we drive down to Santana Row … At SR we browsed thru some stores and Mala bought me some amazing formal tops from ‘H&M’. We then had coffee at ‘Peets Coffee and Tea’ and a little later we stopped by at ‘Sino’ for the best Mohitto ever … we were to stay for dinner too but finally decided against it. As we walked back to the car we passed by a multiplex that was showing ‘Bright Star’ the story of John Keats the romantic poet and his beloved Fanny Brawne…slow but very nice! We returned home with my head lolling all the way home…When we reached home Mala wanted to plan for the next day and probed me on my interests – I wanted to visit the temple and meet her dear friends Swami and Vir and if possible see a show like the Lion King … She searched the net to find a show that would suit our schedule – by this time I was too sleeeeepy so I excused myself and left it to Malee to figure it out.

11th Oct 2009, SFO: The next morning I woke up to the smell of steaming idlis and sambhar … Malee was already up and about and furiously cooking up a storm in the kitchen for breakfast and dinner. I first had some amazing green tea and honey with lime from Malee’ garden, and then gorged on the delicious idlis. We sped off to the Rama-Krishna Mission temple nestled in the deeply inclined lanes of SFO - we reached just in time to meet Swami … it was such a pleasure seeing him again – he has become more frail but he still could remember Roshni, Raunaq and Farrukh and asked about each of them. When I told him that I had taken the trip to surprise Mum and Papa he was wondrous as to why I would want to do that. Mala later explained that he came from such humble beginnings that he could not fathom why I would ever want to surprise anybody and the joy related with such a moment!

We also got really lucky and met Virja Prana who gave me the warmest hug ever… we could not stop giggling and yapping about the surprise while Mala was trying to head us off to the Orpheum Theatre to see the Broadway musical ‘Wicked’. The Orpheum theatre was the most awesome experience I have had in the longest time – the interiors were artistically designed and the bar and food counters were filled with a variety of drinks and eats - we had a drink before going into the show and I experienced something innovative here that I wish to share -- we also ordered a drink for the interval before the show and gave him our name; in the interval we came out and our drink was ready to have with our name tag below it on a shelf adjoining the food counter – this saved us the time of standing in a queue and also gave us more time to enjoy the drink since we could not carry the eats and drinks inside! Wicked was a musical tale of misunderstanding and triumph over evil. It is the story of the Wicked Witch of the West and the unfortunate turn of events that thrust her into the spotlight of being the enemy of all that is good. What a performance by each member of the cast, what songs, sets, lighting, costumes, make-up and above all the two leading ladies – exemplary to say the least! After the musical we headed back home feeling heady with the show we had just experienced to prepare dinner for the O’Malleys. Malee had outdone herself with a delicious spread of fish curry, Kayle, Dal, Fish Curry, Baingan, Rice, Salad and hot Rotis followed by Semiyan!!! It was great meeting with Lisa and her family – the kids more particularly Owen had grown so much and Jaya and he were squeezed by me at every opportunity! We had a lovely time chatting about the kids, the surprise, and opportunities for Rosh and Rock to come to the US for their further studies etc. The day had been awesome and I couldn’t help smile as I closed my eyes on my pillow.


12th Oct 2009, SFO: The next morning I started the day with my favorite green tea, honey and lime and grabbed a quick sandwich of cheese spread and fresh garden plucked tomatoes which I munched while walking around Malee’ backyard. We left the house by 10 to visit the Stanford University International Students office where we probed opportunities for Roshni and Raunaq. I got an answer to most of my queries but couldn’t help sigh at the premium fee structure and the fact that if we applied for scholarship it was likely that we would not get admission as the competition was very high in this bracket. We then took off for Carmel … what a beautiful boutique city this is! Lunch at Hog’s Breath Inn (once Clint Eastwood’ place), with its old west ambiance consisted of a huge Portabella mushroom burger and a Bloody Mary … sumptuous and refreshing but too big for me to finish. We then walked the lanes browsing thru the innumerable art galleries and crockery/cutlery stores all of which, I wanted to take back home to my kitchen :) It was thankfully a sunny day and hence the ‘Carmel-by-the-sea’ beach with its panoramic view speckled with beautiful sea gulls was awesome; the air felt crisp while the clear sky reflected a blue water ahead of us. We took in the scene for a while and took some pictures.

We left Carmel at about 4pm and Mala took me across to Alka’ home by about 7.00 PM where I met her parents, her husband Gaurav Garg and her lovely daughters … they were all in a festive mood for the upcoming Diwali celebrations they were having in their home on the 16th evening – the kids had been furiously practicing their steps for a Bollywood medley as Gaurav and uncle painfully strung colorful lights in the garden. Alka treated me to some awesome non-cheeze pizza that we took-away from a restaurant at Santana Row. The shopaholic Alka also made me stop by at Crate & Barrel and Best Buys. I picked up some beautiful Crockery from both the stores and then we went back to her home to have some Margarita that Gaurav made for us and the Yummy Pizza …
By the time I got home it was 12.30 in the night only to find Malee sulking … she was really mad and we had a bit of a spat as I had gotten so late. The fact was that I was on holiday and hence not really bothered about getting late but a bigger reality was that … I was late, more so considering that I had a flight to catch the next morning at 6AM which meant that I was to reach the airport at 5 AM and since the airport was about an hour away, we had to leave home at 4AM and hence at best I needed to get up at 3AM!!! It was already 12.30 in the night … two hours of sleep was all that we were going to have! I packed profusely by myself as Malee continued to sulk and watch Jodha Akbar if you please! When I was done and needed to pack some of the delicate stuff in her bag I walked up to her saying, ‘In which bag can I put these?’ When she got up and showed me the bag I knew that the worst of her mood was over. We finished the rest of the packing within the next half hour and then crashed with our respective alarms on for 3AM … oh lord what a long two and half days these had been in SFO …GROWL … But awesome too :)))

13 – 19th Oct 2009, SFO/Texas/SFO: I had barely slept and … ttrrrng ttrrrng … I slammed the alarm shut and jumped out of bed, quickly washed and dressed and went into the hall. Mala was already up and about fixing my cup of tea and packing a sandwich and some fruit for my flight… she truly is one of the most thoughtful persons I know of. I hugged her saying, ‘Thanks Malee… and sorry about last night’ ‘Its okay’ she said in her playful nasal voice, ‘lets move fast or else we are going to be really late’. ‘Please remember to take your camera Malee as I would like to video capture the surprise’. I had a 6AM connecting flight San Jose-Denver (with an hour’ stopover)-Texas and Mala had a direct flight at 9.00AM. On board the flight from Denver I had the company of a young and cheerful black US Marine. It was amazing talking to him. He had the look of an open minded soul and was so sincere about his queries and really passionate about his work, his fitness, his soon and his wife. He was the first person who had so much praise for Bush and his war causes as they were always to improve the state of being of a land. He also wanted to know more about India and hoped to visit some day. The plan was to meet Malee at the baggage carousel in Texas as her flight was landing in Texas fifteen minutes after mine. Mala came to the carousal as planned in Texas and as we collected out bags my stomach started knotting with anxiety for the upcoming surprise that we were going to give MaPa and Anj  We took a taxi to the house and en-route Anj called to find out where Mala was. She wanted to know if she would reach before 3PM so that she could go along with her to pick up Anika from school. We passed by her as she was driving out and she called Malee:
‘Hey was that you in the cab that just passed by? Sorry I had to leave as I would have got really late – I will see you at home soon. Mama and Papa are waiting for you’
We soon arrived at the Sejpal residence and Mala took out her Camera, I nervously rang the bell and heard Mum’ voice,
‘Jangee Jangee Mala aagaye hai shayad … come fast’
The door then opened and Mama popped her head out smiling, ‘Hiiiiiii’ … her face then shadowed as she realized that it was me she was looking at. She then sighed with a shocked look saying, ‘Haaaainnn … Priya???’
I leaped forward into her shaking arms as she broke into a stream of tears … sobbing uncontrollably bringing tears of joy to my eyes too.
I looked up and on top of the stairway was Papa looking shocked and saying ‘Arrrey… how come … tu kaise aa gayee beta?I rushed up the stairs and hugged him saying, ’Aap logon ki yaad aa rahi thi … so I just decided to come – HAPPY ANNIVERSAY’

Mum was still weepy but by now they were tears of joy (I guess the initial outburst was more emotional) and excitedly jabbered about how they had called Farrukh in the morning as they could not get thru to my mobile and he had said that I had gone to Pune for work :) It had worked out like clockwork after all … God had magically made my dream come true!
We then tip-toed into the room and we feasted our eyes to the latest addition to the family … Arjun Sejpal. He was in deep sleep and buried under loads of covers. I lightly touched his cheek feeling his warm soft cheeks … we were shooed out by Papa. We hugged and kissed some more and then Mum fed us some yummy khana. I had just finished eating and we were talking about the whole surprise when we heard the front door opening and Anika ran in saying, ‘I’m home from school’.
I screamed, ‘So am I’ while running out of the kitchen towards them and Anj who was still standing at the doorway took a few seconds to realize that it was me and screamed, ‘WHAT, WHAT WHAT … what are you doing here. What is this? How come you are here??’
I ran into her arms and we hugged and kissed with tears of joy rolling down our cheeks and the mad Sharma hysteria unfolded the second time around. Anika looked adorable as ever but was shy, speechless and unsure of what to make of this outburst of emotion from all of us mad hatter Sharma’s and when I hugged her she wanted to go back to her favorite Mala Masi’ lap.

Arjun soon awoke from his deep slumber and Mala and I took turns in squeezing him. The afternoon was spent in talking, laughing, replaying the plan for the surprise and finally sharing the gifts that I had got for all of them. After some hot chai in the evening, we anxiously awaited Dhaval’ return to come a full circle on this well orchestrated surprise! Anj called him at the end of the day and he said he was going to be home in 10 minutes. The rest of them quickly assembled in the hall as I hid myself in the living area of their home which also leads to the garden and the garage. Quite contrary to our plans Dhaval suddenly opened the garage door and walked into the house. I saw him turned and ducked. ‘ Hey ... arrey why are you hiding, what's going on’ He thought I was Anj for a few seconds – meanwhile the rest of them came charging from the hall and Dhaval gathered in the confusion that I wasn’t Anj. ‘Wait a minute, don’t tell me … is that Priya?’ I turned and gave him a big hug while he bursted with disbelief, ‘Oh my God … it is Priya! What is this? How? I can’t believe this! This is awesome’. And we were all jumping and screaming with joy and hugging and kissing each other for the third time around … Oh my God! What a perfect surprise it had turned out to be! Dhaval had brought a cake for MaPa’ anniversary and Mala opened a bottle of red wine she had carried from SFO. We all cheered, had yummy mama-khana, clicked loads of pictures, sang songs, yapped, laughed like hell generally having a blast ... and in the middle of all the excitement I missed my three poopies back home like anything!

I spent the next 5 glorious days at Anj' home with her lovely family, Ma Pa and Malee … all of us yapping, hogging, watching movies, each of us contributing our own tips to make the besan ka ladoos for diwali and finally the ladoos turning our quite fine; celebrating diwali together after so long with papa and ma reciting the prayers and all of us joining in for the arti -- I missed my poopies on diwali night as I watched the festivities, lights and sweets and said a silent prayer for their well being; playing with Anika and telling her stories every night and day; bathing Arjun after he had done the largest potty by a baby ever and then swaddling him in fresh clothes; singing to him and putting him to sleep, going to the park with Anika and Mapa as she ran from one swing to the next and playing hide-n-seek with her, visiting her school for a diwali party where we met Anj’ mother’ group – Tanya and Andrea her sisters in the US are adorable and their babies absolute dolls – the school was a dream project that I wished I could make my Rosh and Rock also go thru by rewinding their lives to babyhood once again.

Anj took the trouble to talk to an amazing lady called Jenny Voigt who in turn met with me so warmly and was unbelievably supportive in answering all my queries about career opportunities in the United States. We also visited University of Texas and met the international students coordinator about the admission process for Rosh and Rock. On the morning of Diwali, Preeti Rangachary my friend from school called and again with her I chatted on options of the kids coming to study in the US. I also shopped with Mala and Ma Pa at Crate & Barrel (where I loved a red blown glass bowl) and World Market. On Sunday morning 18th Oct, Mala returned to SFO and D, Anj and I went to the Outlet Mall with the kids where I went insane shopping at GAP, Adidas and Eddie Bauer. On the last day, Anj and I drove out with the kids in tow to shop at Old Navy where again I picked up some lovely stuff for the kids. As always, Anj/D and Mala and even MaPa pampered me with loads of gifts for the kids, Nu and me and our home. Last but not the least, we met with Nikhil – Anika’ lil sweetheart :) and his family Abhi, Vicky and Sachin. Departing from Anj was as emotional as meeting her. She is like a lil baby to me and always will be, even though she is now a mother of two. She wept not wanting to let go and leaving her was the most difficult… D, Ma and Pa dropped me off at the airport while Anj stayed home with the kids to take Anika for her swimming class. I arrived in SFO late that night and Malee fed me with some yummy frozen Aloo Paranthas and Dahi. She had also bought me the red blown bowl we had seen at C&B and loads of chocolates to take back. I packed furiously needing to exchange bags as my bags were just not big enough to carry all the goodies I had bought or had been gifted.

20th Oct, SFO: The next and last morning in the US was more than pleasant. I sat in the garden and enjoyed breakfast of eggs, bread and juice with Malee, who shortly after, left for the office. I dressed in time to meet with an ex-colleague from Invest India called Poonam Karnani who dropped by and like old times was as giggly as ever – it was good to see that she has settled well in the US. A little Malee returned from her office and the bell rang again -- it was one of my one time best friend from St Joseph’s school, Nalini Bamba with her 1 year old son. It was fun to catch up with her again and she looked as lovely as ever! Soon after Vir called to say goodbye and I shared all the details of the surprise with her ... needless to say she was as happy as us about the whole plan ... it is always so refreshing talking with her and some how I feel this unexplainable bond between her and the family. We then had lunch of fish Malee had made for me with some yum Pakistani masala, kayle, moong dal and rotis… Awesome awesome awesome!!!! Malee dropped me off at the airport and it was then that we spoke about her ... her plans for life ahead, her dreams and a lot lot more … As expected both of us were emotionally strung by the time she was to leave… I love my sisters so much and feel blessed to have them in my life … My first ever vacation on my own and that too all the way to the US, after all the initial speculation and hesitation, was a HUGE SUCCESS … thank you God, thank you my world, thank you Nu, thank you my babies and thank you the great Sharma family for making this trip so beautiful...and making it so MAGICALLY PERFECT!

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Sagar and my first Sale!

I often reflect on my formative working years and more so when I receive my salary at the end of a month ... I cant help thinking about the times when I was making a mere fraction of the amount I earn today ... I was a teenager then!

St. Joseph's High School, R.C.Church had an inclusive learning policy; so children of all strata studied alongside us. In the 9th and 10th grades I tutored slum dweller' kids studying in the junior school. This service was facilitated by the Principal of our school Fr. Joaquim Dcosta and for this task I received a small stipend of Rs.10 per month. I took great pleasure in receiving this amount of money, which was spent in buying chocolates -- my students and I enjoyed this once a month treat ... and I felt happy that my earning was giving so much simple joy - this was my first earning :)

After passing out of St. Josephs I studied at Cathedral & John Connon for my 11th and 12th grades. Although the experience of studying at the school was not such a great experience I learnt a lot in these two years and my earnings were awesome -- as I had graduated to teaching middle school rich kids and got paid Rs.100 an hour and often taught about 2-3 hours a day... which used to earn me a solid Rs.7000 to 8000 per month!!! For a teenager brought up in the frugal subsistence of the armed forces life, this was a booty and I reveled in my earnings - buying new clothes, reading books and comics to my hearts content at the neighbourhood library run by good ol'Amar and eating loads of 5 Stars and kachoris and guzzling bottles of Thums Up and Fanta from the Aarey booth in Navy Nagar... I also saved some of this money with my Mum which Mala and I later used in a trip to Singapore (that is another story).

Then came the college years which required me to travel by 123 to Regal, hopping off at the stop and then walking to Elphinstone College the oldest institution in Bombay ... on one hot morning a few meters short of the college a few youngsters were distributing attractive leaflets that spoke of part-time research assignments with Pathfinders - Lintas! This was one of the leading advertising agencies in those days and their research arm was quite well known amongst youngsters. I had heard of a few friends doing some research assignments with them and they could not stop talking of the fun they had and the places they traveled to. I soon enrolled with them and my first assignment was of door-to-door promotion of Nikky-Tasha' Kitchenettes. I was assigned the Worli area and following the left hand rule which meant ringing the bell of every alternate house starting with the house on my left I got a peek into a variety of Indian homes :) I also worked on Frooti' tetra-packs, Hawkins Cookers etc. Fun times and great confidence building for me ... but the money was not as much as I thought I would make! We were paid Rs.10 per form and however hard I tried I could never do more than 40 to 50 forms in a day and of course we could do this only on weekends or bunk lectures once a week and go off for the whole day. I don't know how many homes I must have visited in those days ... complete strangers that always seemed very cooperative and happy to provide their responses to my questionnaire ... it was very tiring work but very satisfying and thanks to those days till date I appreciate the effort that a salesman makes and can spot a good one instantly!

During my college days I also never missed on an opportunity to compere the bharat-natyam recitals done by a friend named, Kiranmayi Chinni; at the Tanjore, Taj. She would be give me Rs.100 for each show. I truly enjoyed these experiences because the audience was always filled with foreigners that were so appreciative after about Kiran' performance, her learning journey, her costume and my saris and my speech ... and above all being at the Taj felt simply fantastic!

On graduating in 1985, the next natural thing to do was to find myself a proper 9-5 job!!? My summer vacation ended tooooo soon and as soon as it ended I had enrolled for an evening course at Xaviers Institude of Communications for a diploma in Advertising & Marketing. I also went to meet a placement agency and the girl there said that there is a vacancy with a small company called Letraset India which marketed transferable fonts and screens for advertising agencies to use in their print ads - I was to meet a guy called Sagar Tejura at their office near crawford market. On the appointed date, I visited the tiny office which was on the 2nd floor in a dilapidated building near Metro theater (thankfully this was walking distance from my college) and there were precisely 3 people in the office - the promoter, an elderly man called Kaka who was the office man-friday and Sagar who assisted the promoter in all the business operations. Sagar took my interview while the promoter looked on. Sagar grilled me about the stars and the moon and India and all the possible current affairs ... sadly most of my answers were either 'Uuuhm I dont know' or wild guesses that were all wrong. A lump had developed in my throat and my eyes were itching with a hint of tears ready to rollover onto my cheeks ... I wasnt getting this job so I fought back my tears and looked straight into Sagar' eyes for the first time. He had beautiful honest eyes and I desperately searched for some support in them while I said, "Im sorry Sir, I know I am not going to get this job because I dont have an answer to any of your questions ... this is my first interview and maybe that is why I am very nervous". Sagar' eyes softened and he said smiling at me like a parent does when he is happy seeing a spark in his child, "I can understand your nervousness and dont worry you have got this job. We will start you on a salary of Rs.850 plus conveyance and will look at a revision once you have completed 6 months with us. I will see you at the office at 10AM tomorrow morning. Please be on time." I wanted to get up and hug him but restrained myself as Sagar got busy with putting together my appointment letter.

I arrived at work the next morning at 9.45AM ... the peon was cleaning up while the promoter was saying his prayers. The office had a mixed fragrance of rose incense and phenyle and a silence that was broken at 10AM sharp as Sagar strode into the office.

'Arrey wah, you have come in early like the sunshine. Very good! Keep up the punctuality -- yeh nahin ki pehle din par time par ayee ho to baki din aaram sey aarahi ho .. Huh?'
'No Sir, I will be on time'
'Good! And you can call me Sagar and I will call you SUNSHINE :)'

I started work immediately with Sagar giving me an introduction to the brand, that we were the sole importers of Letraset and Rotering products in India, that we did direct sales and also sold to retailers i.e. stationers, he then explained the entire product line i.e. Letraset transfers and Rotering pens and the type of customers that we sold to, the pricing and discounts etc. In the afternoon he took me along for 2 meetings with the Creative Directors of medium sized ad agencies in the Fort area -- these guys looked so beyond me in terms of age, maturity and intellect ... this was going to be a tough ball-game for me who was used to encountering simple and humble home-makers during my door-to-door visits while at Pathfinders... the agency jargon was yet another challenge. I eagerly listened on as Sagar talked his way thru meetings and looked from his face to the customers and was fascinatied each time an order was sealed. Sagar was very encouraging from the word go and after a few days he would let me start the talking at meetings so that I could overcome my fears. However, somehow even after two weeks into the job I wasn't confident of doing a call on my own and kept fumbling thru my responses or would just get into a brain freeze if I walked into an intimidating office ... achieving a sale on my own seemed an impossible task at hand.

On one wet September afternoon when Kaka and I were the only ones in the office - Sagar was unwell at home and the promoter had stepped out for some work; I received a call from a prospective client. He spoke in a heavy voice and said that he wanted to drop by at our office the next morning to see the product line and was considering a purchase -- he would be there at 10.30AM. I panicked... as I knew Sagar wasnt expected to be in for a few more days and that the promoter never sold as he spoke in a very heavy gujju accent. I tried calling Sagar' home but there was no response... I guessed he was resting!? Meanwhile, my boss came back and I apprised him of the worrisome situation at hand. He assured me that I would manage just fine and that I did not need Sagar to be around during the customer' visit. I called Sagar again later that evening and although he sounded really sick I nevertheless told him about the meeting the next morning -- as always he reassured me that all would be well and that he would try and make it to the office at the earliest possible.

Sagar did not arrive at the usual 10AM and my stomach knotted with fear ... as I furtively paced the tiny office going thru my notes and scanning the office reception to see if all was in order the customer arrived - he was a large intimidating dark man wearing spectacles... thankfully he smiled at me the moment I said I was Priya Sharma the girl who spoke to him. As he settled down in our tiny reception area while my boss prompted me to ask him if he would like a cup of tea.
"I'd love a cup of chai please, thank you"

I asked Kaka to help with the tea and then I set about showing him our brochure and the various products fumbling initially but soon picking up speed with my presentation. He asked me several questions and I surprisingly knew all the answer. He then wanted to know what best pricing we could offer him if he ordered a reasonably good quantity. I had responded to all his queries but fumbled at the pricing as he insisted on getting a discount. At this point I said, "Sir, we have offered you our best price but since you are asking for a larger quantity and that you have come all the way to our office let me talk with my boss and see what best we can do to better this price". I then asked my boss if we could give him a discount to which he said, "Since the quantity is big you can give him an additional 2% discount". I communicated the revised offer to the customer as he was finishing his tea; he paused and thought for a while and finally smiled saying, "Okay thank you ... Please pack the goods as per this list". I had just achieved my FIRST SALE!!!!! As the transaction was being completed and Kaka helped with the packing the customer made small talk with my boss, I thought of Sagar and what his reaction would be... I really was dying to call him and share the details of my success with him. Just then, Sagar strode into the office wearing a sweater and carrying a kerchief in his hand -- he looked really very unwell. He shook hands with the customer as I introduced them and then I added with a smile that he had just bought some material from us. As Sagar shook my hand and I realised what a high temperature he had, and he said in his gruff voice, "Oh thats very good!" ... and then whispered close to me, "Congratulations on your first sale Sunshine ... and wish you many many more to come!" I beamed at him admirably and was really touched by his gesture of keeping his word and landing up even though he was so unwell. Sagar left for home shortly after the customer left. Since Sagar continued to remain away from the office due to his illness I made appointments on my own and completed 3 transactions independently.

10 days later, on one of the mornings that I got to the office early I was sorting some papers and amidst them saw the invoice of my first sale. I showed it to my boss and told him that I was arranging to send it to the customer. He said that will not be required and when I asked why he avoided my question. I asked him again after a while and it was then that he told me that my so-called first sale was staged... by none other than Sagar! The customer was his best friend and was not from an ad agency at all and that the goods and the invoice were later returned! My heart sank ... But why!?? "Well, you were not gaining confidence and had so many fears of managing alone... his objective was to give you the confidence in your self and that is what he has achieved ... see how many appointments you have gone to by your self and how many sales you have done ever since that day!"

When Sagar walked in at 10AM that morning, I looked at him with renewed respect and thanked him for all that he had done for me ... he laughed in his typical loud manner and said, "Oh come now ... I'd do anything to see a smile on your face Sunshine". He had taught me two simple values that I apply to date in my work life - there is a way to overcome all your fears and to achieve business objectives empowerment of people is essential -- this makes them do the quality of work they are capable of thus creating a success oriented team.

At the end of the month when I got my first salary cheque I felt I had really earned it and Sagar took me for a small treat to a restaurant to celebrate my first salary. When I thanked him once again for tiding me over into becoming a sales executive who could now achieve targets even though I started with a naqli sale, he said jokingly, "Chalo at least you will remember me all your life ... Tumhari salary or yeh treat ekdum asli hai ... so enjoy!" :)

I moved on before completing six months with Letraset as I got a placement at Trikaya Advertising and over time lost touch with Sagar! When I look at a bunch of young sales people I am always forthcoming in my guidance and assistance in their learning process and smile warmly as I reflect on those days ... and silently pray that Sagar is happy and well ... where ever he is...

Saturday, November 21, 2009

All the people: Jerry, an angel out of nowhere!

As a child, my oldest memories go back to me testing a shiny new pen on the collared and squiggled pad at neighborhood library and writing neatly in an upward angle and in a front slant perfectly practiced cursive writing ... all the people. I don't know why but I did always write that phrase to test any new writing instrument. As I grew older I would think back and reflect at my wonder years and that phrase would always come to my mind ... I cant seem to trace back to the memory of why I wrote the phrase but I do know that from my youngest times all the people around me mattered ... I wanted them to like me ... and it mattered a lot to me that ALL THE PEOPLE liked me ... and so the bubbly smiley me never denied an onlooker (sometimes even a rank stranger) a smile, or a friend a warm smiley hiiiii! To this date people matter to me and now that I am older I would like to have the thought or the power or the money to make a difference to all the peoples lives...

Thru my life I would have met thousands of people that I have personally interacted with and liked so much ... family, friends, colleagues, business associates, strangers and it is amazing how some people remain close to your heart even though the interaction may have been the briefest as a part of them has remained with me and made me what I am today.

One such person was JERRY ... it was a dark, stormy night as I drove back from work in my good old Matiz feeling not unlike a sardine, packed in the typical end-of-day grotesque traffic snarl of Mumbai ... listening and singing along with mukesh' lilting songs on the stereo and just as I was at a high note, the car reached the top end of the incline on the Andheri flyover and I pumped the clutch n break for the nth time in the inching homeward journey, my car came to a sudden grinding halt!@#$% ... I turned the ignition several times but to no avail ... this cant be happening to me yaar!?! Desperate honking of the cars behind me deafened my ears ... HONK HONK ... %$#@^ HONK HONK ... cars drove past me as I desperately tried all my tactics to revive the engine but as luck would have it my car was stone dead!!! I pulled the hand brake and stepped out of the car into the rain and apologetically waved my hand to fellow sufferers cursing and shaking their heads at me as they sped off on their ways ... I thought hard about how to get out of the situation!? I really didn't know what to do ... I got back into the car and tried to get through to my husband who said that if I could push the car to the side somehow and just leave it there with the emergency lights on we could deal with it later ... it was impossible for me to push the car in this traffic with cars not leaving an inch of space for me to budge + I just didn't have the strength or the skill to manouever the car in the rain at the top of an incline ... Oh God help me please ... Knock knock on my window ... there was someone knocking for me to open ... as I brought the glass down a young boy about the age of 21-22 (I was closing 40 at this time), "Hi my name is Jerry ... I guess you need some help - please put your car in the neutral gear so I can push you to the side" ... There is a God!!! I mutely followed instructions and soon I was successfully pushed to the side of the road ... he then said, "if its okay with you will you let me try to start your car -- you sit in the passenger seat" a thought crossed, 'Should I trust him? Shut up woman ... you dont have a choice' so I moved over and he jumped in and tried his best ... no luck again! He then said, "Wait here I will organise some help for you". Before I could say 'thanks for trying to help' he was speeding down the maze of vehicles ... and I stood outside getting wet craning my neck over the traffic to keep sight of him ... as passersby looked my way ...'tsk tsk ... bechari ... kya hua Madam' ... some gave knowing smiles - but none of them stopped to help! 10 minutes passed and I gave up. I locked the car, took out the deck, car papers and slung my bag to trudge down the hill, 'I guess now that the car is parked on the side we can pick it up in the morning ... ' just then I saw my friend in need rushing up towards me ... he had a mechanic with him who opened the car and said, 'madam battery bilkul gayela hai aapka'. Meanwhile Jerry had disappeared again ... I then saw that a car was reversing up the drive ... it was Jerry! He had parked his car ahead when he saw me stranded and had run back to help me out. He then tied my car' bumper to his car and took the drivers seat while the mechanic drove his car as he towed us all the way down the hill to Juhu Galli. By this time my husband had also arrived. He negotiated with the mechanic and thanked Jerry profusely, But Jerry was not at the end of his angelic self. He then towed us all the way home. I was smitten by his sheer nicety - what a truly wonderful angel he was! I took his number and the next morning I thanked him again. 
Some months later my mobile got lost and with that I lost Jerry' number too; forever. But he has left a huge impression on my life and I often think of him and say a silent prayer that he is well and happy - it does matter to me still that he is well and happy. So saying cheers to your life Jerry and it is because of the people like you that this world is still a beautiful place.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Basking in Laungurous Goa

This summer we took a road trip to Goa yet again!!? Why Nu why??? We’ve been there so many times ... 14 times in 19 years of marriage ... SIGH ... please please do lets try a new destination! But it is a great destination and plus we can drive there!!! The week of 16-23 May was booked, leave was applied for and sanctioned and as the time came closer we started getting excited about the trip!

16 May 09 -- We were on our way with our bags, boogie board and gaddi at 5 in the morning. The kids slept thru quite a bit of the journey while Fruki drove pretty much non-stop all the way on NH 14 with a 45min halt at Kamat's at 8.30 for south-Indian breakfast a little short of Mahad. We reached the outskirts of Goa at 2.30 and decided to do lunch at Coqueiro (which is coconut in Portuguese). We ordered fish curry and prawn curry rice while the kids drank iced tea and Nu and I ordered a beer and Margarita respectively … and we were feeling groooooovy :) The goan relaxed mood was set in and we embraced the Goan hospitality with open hearts. We reached the Haathi Mahal, which is situated in South Goa and checked into Villa112. The kids ran into the pool while we stocked the fridge and kitchen with key provisions. After the kids came back we learnt that they had already made friends and they had made a plan to meet up after dinner. We freshened up, ordered room service and enjoyed dinner together while watching Jab We Met for the nth time (it is always a treat to watch) … while flipping thru the channels during a commercial break we came across the ManU vs Arsenal match which ended in a draw thus declaring ManU the winner of the season … My thoughts went out to little Mishal and Abhinav watching the match live in the first row at the Old Trafford Stadium at Manchester … we had made it possible for him and it made me feel warm from within about the fact that we had been able to keep up to our commitment. I had developed an allergic sneezing bout by the time dinner was over so I popped an anti-allergent … I passed out while trying to read a few lines of Shashi Tharoor’ India.

17 May 09 -- We rose early considering we were really tired from the journey the day before and the anti-allergent. I made our favourite elaichi chai and Nu and I sipped on it in the balcony as the kids sleepily slumped into chairs too. Raunaq fed two cats that had found their way into balcony with some milk – they lapped it all up hungrily. We then quickly changed into our costumes and hit the beach. The water was great and the weather perfect so the kids and Nu rode the water scooter and also did the parasailing. We then walked back to the hotel and jumped into the pool and enjoyed breakfast at the floating bar. We lunched at Mikes where I had the best ever Veg Xacuti with rice, lime and green chillies and a Mojitto to down it :) I sacked out for an hour post the heavy lunch and then joined the kids at the pool in the evening where they participated in a swimming competition with other children. Roshni and Raunaq came in 4th and 5th respectively. We had elaichi tea and toasts at the pool. This was followed by Pool Volley Ball with adults and kids alike. Nu joined in to play VB and later played water polo too. We changed after this fun activity at the pool and went for dinner to the Casa Lisboa restaurant at the hotel where we had some traditional Goan performers dancing for us – this was followed by dancing to loads of fun live music and dinner. The kids met their new pals Vijit, Pritham, Sanaya and Gauran after dinner while Nu and I chatted at the pool-side.

18 May 09 – The next morning we did breakfast in the room – eggs, toast, milk and juice and then got ready to receive Ma and Pa at Madgaon. It was so good to see them :) We had lunch at the Lisboa again and Mum and I enjoyed a Margarita each while Papa and Nu had beers. Post lunch the kids freaked out with their new pals while we caught up on some sleep. After tea in the evening, we changed into costumes and went for a dip in the pool – the best part was to see Ma and Pa there too in their adorable costumes :) Mum looked unsteady initially but eventually did some paddling around while Papa joined in with the kids and youngsters to play a few rounds of water polo. We ended the day with dinner at Fishermans wharf where we had a trumpeter serenading us with some of the best melodies of time.

19 May 09 -- We started the day with a cup of tea and a walk on the beach with Ma and Pa which was very refreshing and we got some great pictures too :0 We then drove to the famous St. Francis Church in old Goa -- Mum wanted to join the ceremonies but that was not allowed. We bought a few memorablia and then went to Panjim on an endless tiring walk in the sun to buy Kajus and then later had lunch. The kids ate Dominoes Pizza while we had Mughlai at Moti Mahal. We formally met with Sandeep and Dolly Mehra (Gauran’ parents) and Puneeta and Rohan Singh (Vijit and Saisha’ parents). Mum and I then relaxed in the pool while the kids, Nu and papa played water polo – we ended the day by ordering room service instead of stepping out as Ma and Pa were very tired from the days activities. We taught Ma and Pa how to play UNO and had a blast as the two of them erred continually and kep ket caught as they kept forgetting to say pUNO ;)) Papa kept saying PUNO loudly instead of UNO while declaring his game! It was really funny.

20 May 09 – The next day was a blast in its own way as we decided to hit the beach with all the other friends we made i.e. The Mehra’s and Singh’s and all the kids and us with Ma and Pa. The gang included – 6 of us; Sandeep, dolly, sanaya and gauran; puneeta, vijit and saisha; ananya, jhanvi, devika, divya, kancha and their dad and mum – over 20 of us freaking out together. The waters were roaring and hence an absolute thrill to be in. The kids had a blast, boogie-boarding as well and playing water polo in the midst of the huge waves that pelowed us :) Papa also played ball with the boys while mama waddled around in the water and sat in about 5 inches of water next to dolly and believe it or not but she slipped and actually swallowed a bit of water in the process ... she was quite dazed for a bit after this sudden mishap but enjoyed the rest of the beach experience. Breakfast consisted of sandwiches and juices at the poolside and followed up by lunch in the room. The evening was spent playing UNO with Ma and Pa and having chai. They also had sandwiches and juice before leaving for Mumbai and packed cutlets for their onward journey. Nu and I went to drop them off in the Neeta sleeper bus – which was really very odd from the inside as they expected two complete strangers to share a berth. Very very odd indeed!!!?! We had planned to go for dinner to Martin’ Corner but by the time we got back to the room from dropping Mapa; Rosh was fast asleep so we ordered some room service instead of going out anywhere.

21 May 09 – The day was spent lounging at the swimming pool, eating some delicious fish and prawns for lunch at JoeCons – Rosh stayed back as her stomach was aching. When we got back Sandeep was over with his kids. We spent the afternoon talking about our families and watching the IPL match. In the evening the activity centre organised a dance competition which was being judged by none other than Nu :) It was great fun watching all the kids of all sizes freaking out to their creation of dance steps ;) Raunaq did a "maa da ladla bigad gaya" jig with Gauran while the girls Rosh, Pranika, Sanaya and Ananya danced to "Desi Girl" with the boys i.e. Gauran, Raunaq, Dhruv and Dev joining in towards the end ... The evening ended in a crescendo with all the children on stage grooving together. We spent the evening at the Mehra' Villa 92 where Dolly treated us to baked chicken and bhel along with drinks and snacks. All in all a great evening spent perfectly. We returned to our villa close to 11PM and packed furiously. The kids were forced to return back much to the chagrin of Dhruv, Gauran, Dev and Sanaya but we did retire nevertheless as we just had to get to bed as we returning home the next morning.

22 May 09 -- We started the drive back at 6.40 and took the route via Nipani and the Kolhapur national highway 4 and stopped only at Macdonalds for a quick drive thru burger. I took the wheel from Pune to all the way back and we were home by 6.30PM ... although we had a great trip and got back some fun memories it was good to be back to "home sweet home"!

Friday, April 3, 2009

EGG-JHAAAAAMS!!!

Today is a bank holiday on account of Ram Navmi ... the birth of Ram and the day that most devout north Indian hindus also perform the ritual of Kanjka -- as a kid we would love this day as Papa and mama would wash our feet, treat us to halwa puri and channas and also give us money, so am at home with Rosh and Rock while they pretend to study for their EGG-JHAAAAAMS looming up large and commencing with a bang (both have Maths on day 1) on 06 April 09!!! Poor babies have so much to cover and so little time on hand ... And I wonder with a fidget as to how they will ever cover their enormous portions with all the distractions that keep popping up into their lives -- calls, emails, SMS's, friends, TV, basket ball, the new found 'Rave', problems of friends, problems of their own!!!?!

All the best my dolls ... Insha-allah all will be well with all your subjects [I am crossing my toes, fingers and eyes for that :)))]

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Surprise Party -- JB, Natti, Rosh, Baby Shaikh turns 15!!!


Last Sunday was 22 March 09 and with Roshni's 15th birthday coming up in four days our lil baby got up from her beauty sleep feeling anxious as ever, about what she would do and wear on the big day -- as usual the exams loomed ahead for all her pals and her, and despite toying with several ideas we just didn't come to a conclusion all thru the day. What we did however achieve on Sunday, was a splurge at a couple of the Malls around our home and at Lokhandwala market' boutique stores -- the young lady was richer by several garments and beamed at herself saying, "Thanks for all the clothes Mom -- I guess we'll celebrate after the exams and we can do a family dinner on my birthday".

Manic Monday arrived and I was fretful about several to-do's at work. At about 5pm I got a call from Rosh and while listening to her animated description of her day at school, my heart kept gnawing at me about the fact that our baby was turning 15 and we were doing nothing grand about it (I know she loves grand things at her age) ... My eyes filled in as I thought of the troubled times she has been thru lately and I resolved that I really did want to celebrate this day for her and show her how many people love her ... I impulsively called a few typical party venues and everything was so unnecessarily exorbitant ... so I called Mum/Papli to check if they would let us use their home as the venue. Mum graciously agreed and said that they would be happy to help in whatever way they could too... Yeaaay!!!!! I was making headway, having achieved the first milestone!
I then called Honey (Fruki' niece) for help with organizing a DJ ... she suggested I speak with Manav instead. Manav was as resourceful as ever and assured me he would speak with his friend who was a DJ and get back to me with his rate and confirmation by EOD. He did call EOD... at dinner time in fact (and since I hate getting up from my meal Fruki picked up the phone) and Manav blurted out the DJ confirmation to Fruki (now Fruki is the last person on this earth to trust a secret with -- he just cannot contain secrets!!! So, I had intentionally not shared any of the plans for the party with him or the kids). Fruki was obviously puzzled at what Manav was saying and gave the phone to me with a quizzical look saying, 'Manav ka phone hai - tumne phone kiya tha kya?' (by this time I had gobbled my last few bites so I ran to get the phone from him hoping that Manav had not done the mindless blurt to my dear hubby ... Alas!!! I was too late and Manav had given Fruki the rate and the confirmation. Nevertheless, I swore Fruki to secrecy (which of course is pointless ... its not that he will blurt out the secret... but he has this habbit of pretending to be puking out what he is dying to say to the effect that the person who is hiding from knows, for sure that something is cooking ... ) uuuuuuuuughhhh he is sooooooooooooooooo annoying!!!! In any case, the fact was that the DJ Ruchir had confirmed to be there for the party on the 26th and would be at the venue by 5.30 for setting up so that all would be ready before the surprise for Rosh at 7pm. Ruchir also asked me to suggest the list of favorite songs that I would like played (I got Dia darling to give me the names of some key numbers / bands). Manav also suggested that we order Biryani from Noorani' at Haji Ali -- chicken tikka and paneer tikka is what he highly recommended. Milestone 2 & 3 had been achieved!

Fruki of course was bursting with very obvious gesticulations like doing the hussle with a silly smile on his face and holding his hand to his mouth in front of Rosh each time she came in front of him or was in the room with him ... its actually very comical and Raunaq and I had a tough time trying to contain himself! By this time which was Tuesday morning 24th March, Rosh was guessing that something was surely amiss. Rock had to be told about the secret as I wanted some of his pals to come for the party too (his pals are absolute squeezable babies -- and they are not yet Young Adults (YA's) (most kids; at least Roshni' pals don't like to be called as kids anymore... Sigh!!!)

Then started the calls to the YA's and Ankita was the first I spoke with amongst the girls and Rohan amongst the boys. They both were mighty excited; Ankita said it was a great idea to have a surprise party and Rohan assured me that he "wouldn't miss the party for the world" -- God bless him for being such a genuine sweetheart. I then drafted an SMS-invite for the YA's and block sent it to them. The confirmations from Rosh' girl school mates were instantaneous -- Dia, Aditi, Arnavaz, Paridhi, Pritika, Kanak, Ritika, Shriya and the boys Molin and Shaun. Molin was a darling and assured me he would get the others from their class to join the party - Sahej and Sid. It was working like clockwork. I had also invited the building gang and had told Rock to invite his friends. Prateek SMSed his confirmation and offered his help in whatever way I might need -- he too was a sweetheart and cam eback to me with confirmations of AP, Aditi and himself. He said that Saurav, Sanjana and Rohit would not make it as they had their 10th Eco paper on the following day!!!:( It was Understandable -- also it was unlikely that Asjad would make it as his parents would not give him permission!? SAAAAAD ... as I know that Rosh would have loved to have all of them there. It would somehow be incomplete... even though some many others were going to make it. The evening before was spent making calls to each of the kids to re-confirm their participation -- I also succeeded in getting thru to Saurav, ordering the cake, ordering the food, arranging for a balloon specialist to decorate the house, asking MaPa to organize the soft drinks and curd (for the delicious mint dip that are a treat with butter wafers and Rosh' favorite snack), buying the Stephanie Myer series for Rosh and giving instructions and coaching to Fruki and Raunaq on what each of them needed to do and say :)


Rosh talking with Saurav and getting greeted by Sanjana

The big night arrived ... I mean the night of 25th March, 12 midnight -- and Sanjana who had been secretly coordinating with me to be there to wish Roshni personally at sharp 12; gave me an SMS stating she was outside our door (where do these YA's get their energy!!?) at the dot of 12. I was yawning my head off thinking of the next day at work as I opened the door and gave her a whispered big hug ... she carried with her a chocolate pastry and a candle, a rose and a card -- we lit the candle and then I called out to Rosh to come to the living room -- Meanwhile since it was already just 12 midnight she was already on the phone with Saurav (the first to wish her) -- she jumped with joy at seeing Sanjana and loads of photos and hugs and kisses were exchanged ;)) I hugged her, Fruki also got up hearing the chatter, while Raunaq had wished her a few minutes before 12 and passed out for the day; the four of us had a tiny pastry cutting ceremony for her :) It was a beautiful moment and the 16th year of my baby' life had just begun!!
The next morning the 3 of us woke up Roshni with the traditional happy birthday singing around her bed and gave her the gift, a butterfly gas balloon and cards -- she beamed with joy saying thank you so much trying to open her eyes! We led her to the living room where the delicious pineapple cake awaited her -- as she blew the candle out, I prayed silently for all her wishes to come true. She was thrilled to see the books and squeezed the balloon saying thanks Mom, Papi and Raunaq!! Off to getting ready then, into one set of her new clothes looking as adorable and gorgeous as ever!



I battled several issues at work thru the day in the hope that I would leave by 3.00 - No luck!!%$#@; as my boss was busy as hell and I just couldn't time with her before that ... Sigh ... WHAT DO DI DO!?? I had started getting frantic calls from Papa and Rosh asking when I was getting home!? Soon ... is all I could say!? I finally just left at 4.30 as I would have gotten really late for the party and would have not made it in time for the surprise that I had put together. I reached Mum's place by 6.00pm after a frustrating ride thanks to a really daft cabbie I had hired. Fruki was already there with the cake (with JB [acronym for Jaat Buddhi - this is what her Gang calls her?!!], Natti, Rosh and Baby Shaikh [this is what darling Dia calls my baby] iced onto it) and crisp butter wafers. I started making the dip and told Mum and Pa to PLEASE clear up the mess they had made with all the dhaniya and pudina they were peeling on the dining table. In the middle of all this maddness Rosh kept calling me to check on when I would get home and what the plan for the evening was -- I told her I was on my way home and that we were going for dinner with Nana and Nani. Fruki suddenly said that I should not go and pick up the kids, "Let them take a rick". Rosh the princess refused to take a Rick and said she wanted to be picked up PLEASE. So Fruki went to fetch them. Meanwhile, the guests started arriving in groups of 4-5 and soon we had over 30 YA's all over the house -- the music blared to the latest hits and all of them kept asking when Rosh was to arrive while moving to their favorite tunes!?

Fruki finally did arrive with Rosh and Raunaq and made a pretence call to me to come down with Mum and Pa. I said 'Come up yaar for God's sake [I just couldn’t bare the suspense any longer and my anxiety of making this surprise actually happen was it its all time high] as Mama wanted Rosh to cut a cake before leaving'. Rosh was quite disgruntled to have to break journey as she was very hungry and wanted to get to the restaurant soon and she protested that we could cut the cake there ... she trudged up reluctantly while I took a couple of minutes to quieten the YA's as they were cackling with excitement about the final moment by now and debating if the deck should play happy birthday or if they should sing it instead ... SHHHHHHHHHH I said just do whatever comes to your mind then ... I peeped thru the peep-hole and saw them stepping out of the lift and coming to the door and then ringing the bell ... I opened the door and said Hi darling ... HAAAAAAAAAAAPPPPPPY BIIIIIIIIIIRRTHDAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYY screamed everyone as Rosh cupped her mouth and jumped with joy ... seeing all her friends in amazement. Almost everyone I had invited was there -- Dia, Ankita, Aditi, Shriya, Arnavaz, Pritika, Kanak, Paridhi, Ritika, Molin, Sahej, Ayush, Yash, Fauvi, Shaun, Saurav, Sanjana, Prateek, Rohit, Akshay, Praneeta, Aditi, Ayushi, Aditya, Shashu, Yathu, Harsh, Avtej, Rohan, Aishni, Mateen and Farishta. We first cut the cake and then clicked a group picture of the entire gang and then the music took off to a blast as they swayed and moved to the beat of all the latest hip hop numbers ... I do believe that the YA's did have a great time after all ... To complete the evening finally Asjad, Akhlad and Azhad arrived towards the end for a few minutes just to give Rosh a bouquet ... I know my Rosh had a beautiful day ... I did too ... God bless you my princess for many many more!!!!
Fruki, Rosh, Rock and me moving with the beat :)

The GANG -- Saurav, Rohit, Rosh, Sanjana, AP and Prateek with Praneeta, Ayushi and Aditi

Houseful of YA's

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Trudging thru fast-paced Mumbai %@#$

I was thrilled when I got a confirmed placement with an mnc bank, at their Worli, Mumbai head office and yet, after my final meeting with HR, on my way home at 6.30 pm in the evening, I had mixed feelings about the commute; as when I stepped out of the office gate no taxi was willing to go to the closest train station, busses seemed crowded and I was unsure of which one to take … so I decided to take a taxi … and of course the traffic was chock-a-block -- by the time I got home it was 8.45pm … my face looked dirty but happy, my hair was frazzled and my wallet was lighter by Rs.300 … and thru dinner thoughts of the commute kept gnawing me … Sigh!

Ever since my first day at work; which was 14 August 2008, I have tried several modes of transport and felt that a chronicle of my experiences would be a fun read:



1. Self-drive to office: For the first few days I drove to office and went insane, not only with the traffic but also at the end of it finding a parking spot at Nehru Centre. The attendants at the parking lot insisted that I leave the car keys behind with them. Although I was really uncomfortable about leaving the keys behind, I had to do so because there was just no free parking space -- all spaces were reserved for people who had bought a monthly pass. The next morning I paid up for the monthly pass which was Rs.1000. I asked for the receipt and he said that they do not issue one – clearly it was a racket and these attendants were simply pocketing the money. The next 2 days went fine as he allowed me to park in one of the empty spaces. However, on day 5, I found that there was no space and he was asking for my keys again. He said “Madam kya karega aaj bahut saab log gadi leke aya hai” Drat!!! I obviously could not do anything but hand him the keys. The parking experience was new every morning and I would get to office with a frown on my brow :( The evening drive home was an altogether different punishment as the traffic would inch forward and there was never a need to drive beyond 20 km/hour. I would leave the office at about 7.30 or so. Despite playing my choice of music in the car and catching up on long conversations hands-free the journey, needless to say the journey was long and exhaustive and would get me home never before 9.45. Having spent much of my energy commuting I would hardly be in a mood to be more than pleasant with my family and of course my wallet would be lighter by Rs.500 every one and half days so I would be spending at least Rs.2500 every week on petrol + the parking charges that I had already committed to. If only I could get parking in the office building but I am told that the cost per month for a parking lot is 40K!@#$ This arrangement of travel was costing me Rs.11000 bucks … never mind said Fruki at least you are comfortable while commuting!?!

2. Driver driving me to office: Once the launch of the club happened it was necessary to have a driver as I had to meet with clients across the city and arrive in a cool and composed state. So, we decided to hire a driver. Along came Rakesh the classic driver from Bihar with a copy of his license and a sugary keenness to work for a salary of Rs.7000 and nothing less – “Ussey kam mein to kaise chalega Madamji”. I told his there would be late hours and long travel to different locales of the city. He was over excited about the opportunity and said he would arrive the next morning. He did arrive, and always did arrive at sharp 7.45AM standing at attention with a slight forward bend in his stance saying, "Good Morning Madamji". He would open the door for me to sit and switch on my pre-set Gayatri Mantra Chant and the AC at just the temperature that I liked and I would be off feeling nothing short of a queen :) However as soon as we were on the main road, his driving which was filled several instances of rash lane cutting causing peeved drivers to race up and abuse him and look disapprovingly at me as well started giving my brow lines that deepened to the affect that I finally shouted out at him, ”Rakesh tum kaise gaadi chalatey ho”. The first few days he didn’t say any thing but slowly he would start getting upset and when commuters abused him he would look back at them saying, “Kya hai” and then proceed to grumble below his breath for the next few minutes. To add to the madness he was very poor with road navigation so I would have to keep my eyes open and be alert all thru our escapades thru the city. On my way to a meeting in Andheri East (he had driven me there thrice before) I got involved in a complex conversation with another client and so was not paying attention to where we were heading – on emerging from my conversation I looked around to find we were lost and it took us a while to get back to the actual destination – I was late for my meeting thanks to the detour our dear over-smart driver had taken. I asked him, “ Agar tum ko raasta nahin samajh raha tha to tumhein rukna chahiye than na!?” to which he said, “Arrey Madamji aap baat kar rahe they aur main to theek aa raha tha … raasta pata nahin kaise badal gaya” I wanted to throttle him! On one day I was busy at work and the security officer called me saying my driver has come to meet me at the front gate. I went to see what was the problem and there was Rakesh virtually in tears, “Madamji hamar batua kisi ney maar liya hai – usme hamara license aur paisa sad chala gaya hai – hum garmi ke maarey shirt utaarey huey the aur hamari ankh lag gayi thi – jaane kab kissi ney batua shirt ki jeb sey nikaal liya” Poor guy … looked miserable. I gave him some money and asked him to immediately go write a complaint for a re-issue of his license. One good thing we discovered after parking the balance few days at Nehru Centre was that there was another option of parking space for which we did not have to pay any money – Worli Sea-face was where a lot of the office staff would park. Another benefit I gained was that my petrol bill came down a bit – this I learned from Rakesh was because the attendants at the Nehru Centre parking lot would steal petrol when I would leave the keys with them. So, although the conveniences were many of having Rakesh drive me around; the angst of constantly being angry with his rash lane cutting and his argumentative behavior defending his driving flaws and top it all the cost of the commute which was now close to Rs.17000 a month (too steep a price for my liking – but seemed justified as Roshni could use him for the long drive into town for her SPB class plus Mom and Papa could also use the comfort when required to make long commutes – it’s a different thing that Roshni’ SPB abruptly came to an end and Mum and Pa never used the car), just made me want a change! One fine evening Rakesh said that he wants a loan of Rs.10000. He had worked with me for just over two months and he was already asking for a loan to pay the deposit of his rented apartment. Nu and I decided not to oblige him. Two days after this incident he said he needed to visit his village as his brother had run away and was missing from home for the past one week. I let him go giving him an advance of Rs.2000 from his next salary. On returning after 4 days he was grumpier than ever! A week later he abruptly said that he would have to leave back for his village and his return was uncertain as there was nobody to look after his home and farmland … SIGH!%$# Now what!?


3. Meanwhile, on the several days of Rakesh’ absence the next obvious commute for me seemed to be a taxi which would cost me about Rs.450 a day i.e. approx Rs.11500 per month. I also tried a rick and taxi combination for a few days on my way to office that failed miserably and also worked out marginally cheaper but the time to commute invariably would be the same – I would get off from the rick at Bandra Talaab and look for a cab to Worli. To my frustration; no cab would be willing to go as they found the journey too short and, “Uskey baad khaali jana padta hai kyunki subah ke time worli sey koi bhaada nahin milta”! So, I was taking the taxi all the way from home to office and back for several days and would always feel guilty about the serious waste of time and money.


4. On one evening, while looking for a cab to Bandra outside the office I strayed towards the bus-stop adjoining our gate and discovered bus No.33 drive up (I had remembered Nu often telling of taking this bus from town). On an impulse I jumped in and to my pleasant surprise even got a seat within the next 5 mins at a FOR LADIES ONLY designated seat. The ticket conductor clicked by with his familiar bag of change and box of tickets and tore me a ticket for Rs.12 (I quickly did my math and realised that if this arrangement worked it would mean a monthly expense of not more than Rs.625 ONLY!!!!) I thanked the conductor with a broad smile and looked around to take in my surroundings – the bus was clean, well lit up with several tube-lights and so I could read - yippeee, fellow commuters were courteous and a mixed bag of all parts of India and something about that made me feel good, the ventilation was ideal and above all the bus dropped me virtually outside Fame Adlabs … this seemed the ideal solution!!? Nu too was amused that I was contemplating the bus everyday but also added that if it suited my convenience it would be ideal. Sure enough, the next day onwards my joy started crumbling once again – the busses would be delayed and often not even halt at the bus-stop and the route it takes i.e. via shiv-sena bhavan and then enroute to Siddhivinayak Temple … mornings would invariably get me into office later than my usual time and evening I would get home later as there would always be a waiting period before a bus arrived.

5. One evening while waiting for the 33 to arrive I saw a fancy AC bus drive up and the plank said BRTS 4 Oshiwara Depot. I once again jumped in impulsively. The fare was 35 bucks all the way to Lokhandwala. The seats were spacious, the bus was well lit, FM was playing on the system and the fellow commuters were the typical white collar executives. Felt good and the math proved not so bad too Rs.1820 per month!! The additional good things about this option are that the bus has an every 15 mins schedule and it takes the Shivaji Park, Mahim, Linking Road, Juhu route so the journey is quite much similar to any comfortable car journey and I do believe that this is actually one of the best alternatives to arrive comfortably at your destination. The one and only bane is that these busses are freezing cold so when I am not carrying a jacket I just don’t take the bus as I shake like a leaf for the long 2 hour+ journey. For some reason with regular progression the traffic has been getting worse and worse and any road journey past 8.15 in the morning and past 6.00 in the evening is a frustrating, slow experience (the god-dammed sky walk being built at Bandra has further worsened the situation) Sigh …just when I thought I had found the ideal solution I was saddened to know otherwise :(

6. On one frustrating morning when I had missed the BRTS 4 that gets me to office on time, and the cabbies at Bandra refused to take me to worli; I walked to Bandra station, walked unabashedly to the front of the long winding line at the ticket counter and bought a first class ticket and went up to platform no 5. Within seconds a train halted, there was some frantic jostling and muttering and ouching but I was safely in the train and within the next 15 mins flat I was at Bombay Central! I walked out and hailed a cab for Poonam Chambers and just as I was getting in 3 other commuters wanting to go to Poonam jumped in with me – we shared the fare which was 28 bucks and therefore just 7 bucks per head and believe it or not I was in my office in 15 mins – had I stuck to the road route I would still be caught in traffic somewhere at Mahim… that evening I accompanied some colleagues to Bombay Central station and took the train back too. The journey door to door i.e. from my office building to my doorstep was a flat 1 hour and gathered that the same would be the case in the mornings!!!! The next morning, I bought a first class monthly pass (I thought it best to try out this option before committing to more) from Jogeshwari to Bombay Central (Getting to Andheri in the morning is a nightmare thanks to the crazy traffic + getting into the train at Andheri requires a mastery in train travel – which clearly I am inept at), which cost me Rs.400 and the road fares per day add up to about Rs.75 per day and this math works out to a comfortable Rs.2350 per month!!! Not bad at all – in fact damn good. The journey is invariably spent standing but is never more than 30 mins and the ladies, well what can I say, as always, it is a mixed bag and mixed experiences on each day with a lot of - body massaging specially in the mornings, dirty looks, dry looks, tsk tsk tsk please madam you are poking me …, the rear most girl/lady will holler imploringly array yaar please move ahead no I am falling out, OUCH followed by closed eyes and deeeeeeep sighs and finally a look that says I wish I could kill you, fourth seaters balance on a quarter of a bum but still stubbornly continue to sit and at every few minutes turn to the other 3 seat members to “please move little” … that is what the 3 ladies do they just move their bodies in the same place and the situation continues till someone else gets up to leave; what hasn’t changed is the desperation to jump into the train and the eagerness to grab a seat and the pointing your finger at a lady sitting being enough communication to prompt a response about her destination … I usually have a squeezing experience when I board the train at Jogeshwari and then stand to a side once the crowd becomes less at Bandra. On the journey home, getting in at Bombay Central and getting off at Andheri is hurried but not that bad at all … the only challenge that remains with this commute is the getting a rick from Andheri station to home … I need to ask 15 0 20 ricks before I get one to agree to take me (this is all thanks to the metro construction happening in full swing on JP Road, which they say will take 2-3 years to complete) … Sigh!! Getting off at Jogeshwari is a pain too as the long winding ride thru the market takes forever! So, I guess Andheri station is my best option and take a bus from there if a rick doesnt happen within the first few minutes.

It’s been 6 months since I joined work and I have tried 6 modes of commuting to work and all of them have their positives and negatives, pleasant moments and nasty ones and as I look back I do believe that none of the services match the speed of the train commute and price albeit more expensive than the bus 33 option is really worth it. I do still take an occasional taxi to work or the rick taxi combo (I have learnt if I take a rick up to Santacruz and then take a cab from there the cabbies are more than willing to go to Worli) or even the 33 or BRTS 4 if get off early from work and contemplate trying out the contract bus as an option. However, when I want to make certain my time to destination I choose nothing but the train. My pass is coming up for renewal soon – I plan to renew it for sure :)

Raj Kumar Singh - Being Good, Rickshaw Driver, Mumbai

While getting off a rickshaw saddled with a few heavy bags last afternoon, I heard a sound of something dropping and so turned to look ba...